The Elopement Checklist

The Ultimate Elopement Checklist: Everything You Need for a Stress-Free Day

Thinking about eloping but not sure where to start? Whether you’re planning a mountain-top adventure or an intimate beach ceremony, this elopement checklist will walk you through everything you need—without the stress. Let’s make sure you’ve got everything covered so you can focus on what really matters: getting married your way.

What is elopement?

Elopement is an intimate and personal way to celebrate your love and commitment to each other. Unlike traditional weddings, elopements are often private ceremonies with a small number of guests or just the couple themselves. It allows you to have a more relaxed and spontaneous experience, focusing solely on your love and connection. Elopements can take place anywhere, from picturesque destinations to meaningful locations close to your heart. It’s a chance to create a unique and unforgettable wedding experience that truly reflects your personalities.

Eloping is becoming increasingly popular among couples who want to break away from the traditional wedding norms and create a day that is truly their own. It offers the freedom to customize every aspect of your celebration, from the location and decor to the vows and attire. With an elopement, you have the flexibility to design a day that is authentic and meaningful to you, without the pressure of conforming to societal expectations.

Benefits of eloping

There are several benefits to eloping that make it an attractive option for many couples. Firstly, eloping allows you to escape the stress and financial burden that often comes with planning a large wedding. Instead of worrying about pleasing a large number of guests, you can focus solely on your own happiness and create an experience that is intimate and meaningful.

Another advantage of eloping is the flexibility it offers in choosing your wedding location. Whether you’ve always dreamed of saying your vows on a secluded beach, in a rustic barn, or on top of a mountain, elopements give you the freedom to choose a destination that resonates with you as a couple. You can select a location that holds special meaning to your relationship or simply a place that captures your hearts.

Additionally, eloping allows you to have a more relaxed and intimate ceremony. With fewer guests, you can truly be in the moment and savor the emotions of the day. You can have a ceremony that is personal and focused on your love and commitment to each other, without any distractions. It’s a chance to create memories that will last a lifetime.

Define Your Elopement Vision

Picture Your Perfect Day

What kind of elopement feels right for you? Close your eyes and imagine it—are you waking up in a cozy A-frame cabin before hiking to an epic viewpoint? Running barefoot on the beach as the sun sets? Saying “I do” under towering redwoods? Start with the experience you want, and the rest will fall into place.

Set Your Priorities & Budget

Unlike a traditional wedding, your elopement budget is all about you. Decide what matters most—whether it’s an incredible location, stunning photography, or a once-in-a-lifetime adventure—and allocate your budget accordingly. Most elopements fall between $1,000 and $15,000, depending on travel, vendors, and experiences.

Pick Your Location

Choose a Spot That Speaks to You

Your location sets the whole vibe of your elopement. Do you want moody PNW forests, dramatic desert landscapes, or snow-capped mountains? Consider the terrain, accessibility, and any permits you might need. If you’re unsure, check out my elopement location guides for inspiration!

Understand Legal Requirements

Some states require an officiant and witnesses, while others (like Colorado) allow you to self-solemnize—aka, marry yourselves with no officiant needed. Research local marriage laws and permit requirements so you’re prepared. You can also check out my Elopement Legal Guide for more details.

Choose Your Elopement Date

Consider the Season & Weather

Dreaming of wildflowers? Avoid high-elevation locations until mid-summer. Want fall colors? Timing varies depending on where you’re eloping. Winter elopements can be magical, but they often require extra planning for road closures and safety.

Pick a Date That Feels Right

Whether it’s your anniversary, a date that holds special meaning, or just the best time for your adventure, choose a date that aligns with your vision.

Elopement Checklist: The Ceremony

The ceremony is the heart and soul of your elopement, and it’s important to plan it in a way that is meaningful and reflects your love for each other.

Choose a Ceremony Location

Select a location that holds special meaning to you as a couple or simply one that captures your hearts. Whether it’s a secluded beach, a lush garden, or a mountaintop, choose a place that resonates with your love story. Need inspiration? Check out my Best Places to Elope guide.

Write Your Vows

Take the time to write personalized vows that express your love and commitment to each other. This is an opportunity to share your hopes, dreams, and promises for the future. Etsy has a ton of really beautiful options for custom vow books too!

Select Ceremony Decor

Decide on the type of decor you’d like for your ceremony. This could include floral arrangements, an arch, candles, or any other elements that enhance the ambiance of the location.

Choose Ceremony Music

Select music that is meaningful to you as a couple. Whether it’s a live musician, a playlist of your favorite songs, or the sound of nature, music can add a special touch to your ceremony.

Arrange Transportation

If your ceremony location is separate from your accommodation, consider arranging transportation for you and your partner. This could be a private car, a horse-drawn carriage, or any other mode of transportation that adds to the experience.

Plan Any Additional Elements

If you’d like to include any additional elements in your ceremony, such as a sand ceremony, a unity candle lighting, or a handfasting ritual, plan and prepare accordingly.

Elopement Checklist: After the Elopement

Plan Your Honeymoon

Is your elopement location the same place you’ll be honeymooning? If not, rinse and repeat some of these steps to begin planning your honeymoon!

Obtain a Marriage Certificate

Depending on the laws of your chosen destination, you may need to obtain a marriage certificate. Research the requirements and process for obtaining a legal marriage certificate and complete the necessary steps.

Notify Family and Friends

Once you’re married, it’s time to share the exciting news with your loved ones. Notify family and close friends personally, either through phone calls, video chats, or personalized announcements.

Plan a Celebration

Consider planning a celebration to share your joy with family and friends who couldn’t be present at your elopement. This could be a casual gathering, a dinner party, or even a reception-style event.

Elopement Photography Tips

Choose a Skilled Elopement Photographer

Research and choose a photographer who specializes in elopements and has a style that resonates with you. Look through their portfolio, read reviews, and have a consultation to ensure they understand your vision.

Plan for Golden Hour

Golden hour, the hour before sunset or after sunrise, offers the most flattering and magical lighting for outdoor photography. Consult with your photographer to schedule your elopement ceremony and photoshoot during this time for the best results.

Capture Candid Moments

While posed photos are important, don’t forget to capture candid moments that reflect the joy and love of your elopement day. Let your photographer capture the laughter, tears, and intimate moments that make your elopement unique.

Ready to Plan Your Elopement?

This elopement checklist ensures you’ve got everything covered, but at the end of the day, eloping is about freedom, adventure, and celebrating your love in a way that feels true to you. Forget the rules, ditch the expectations, and create a day that’s as wild and beautiful as your love story.

Need a Photographer Who Gets Your Vision?

I don’t just take photos—I help my couples plan an elopement experience that’s unforgettable. From scouting locations to crafting the perfect timeline, I’m here to make this process effortless for you. Check out my Elopement Photography Packages or Let’s chat and start planning your dream elopement today!